Being whipped in the bedroom is a form of impact play.
And impact play is one of the main things people think about when the subject of BDSM comes up.
If done correctly, whipping and impact play, in general, can unlock pleasures unmatched by any other forms of fantasy and forms of sex, for both the dominant partner and for the submissive one who experienced the pain.
Let’s talk about why we like to feel pain during sex, but also how to make the impact play pleasurable for both you and your partner.
The Fantasy: To be whipped in sex
Being whipped during sex and feeling the pain on your body has a simple psychological explanation.
When we feel pain, our brain starts releasing endorphins to help us cope with the sensation.
And when the brain is already flooded with the endorphins released by sexual arousal, the pleasure we feel is much more pronounced.
It’s basically overcharging your pleasure centers by using a hack.
But it’s not all about brain chemistry.
The masochistic and sadist desires of people are also satisfied through impact play.
Some of us have that power thirst that can be satisfied by punishing our partners.
And others are lusting for being in the role of the sexual slave, give up their body to their domme and accept the punishment as a form of cleansing themselves of their sins.
The reasons for including whips, paddles or floggers in the bedroom are plenty.
But you must know how to use them in order to have a satisfying BDSM experience.
Let’s talk more about the correct way of enjoying this fetish.
We all like to think about ourselves as kinky.
Lots of people think they can replicate exactly what they see in BDSM videos.
That’s where they are wrong.
I’ve heard of many couples who are no longer trying BDSM experiences because they did it wrong the first time.
If you want to experiment with the BDSM lifestyle, you should start slow.
Before you pull out a whip in the bedroom, you should start with something lighter.
I always recommend that couples should start with a spanking.
Getting your ass spanked during sex not only that will get you used with the combination of pain and sexual pleasure, but will also help you test your pain threshold.
And I’m not talking about that slap you throw on the ass of your partner during doggy style.
I’m talking about proper spanking.
Get your partner in a good spanking position and with each spank, increase the pain a little.
Have your partner stop you when the pain becomes uncomfortable.
Next thing you need is the whip.
Personally, I recommend whips only after you become more comfortable with impact play.
There are other things you can try at first.
The ideal impact play sex toy for beginners is the flogger.
A paddle also works, offering a different sensation of pain.
The whips and floggers give a more tingly sensation, while paddles are more impactful.
Once you got your torment toy, it’s time to learn how to use it.
This is where a BDSM scene comes in handy.
You can study the technique, but also take note of the body zones where you should inflict pain on your partner.
The buttocks and thighs are the zones that can take the most pain.
The chest in the case of men and the breasts for ladies are also zones that respond well to pain.
You don’t want to hit the abdominal region and the back, because of the organs and spine damage that you might cause.
Also, never hit the neck.
You can lightly hit the face with a flogger, but my recommendation is to stick to slapping when it comes to this zone.
One thing that must be taken into consideration when experimenting with impact play are the screams.
Your partner will scream, and you should allow them to do that.
Not only that will tickle your sadistic impulses, but screaming helps in dealing with pain, and it increases the release of endorphins.
However, if you live in an apartment, screams that are too loud can get you in trouble.
That’s why you should also put a ball gag on your partner.
I don’t know about you, but personally, I find gagged screams hotter.
Punishing your partner can evolve over time and feature many other fantasies and kinks other than just impact play.
Impact play goes hand in hand with bondage.
On top of that, if your partner is properly restrained, you have less chances of causing an accident.
No matter how masochist your partner is, when they anticipate a hit, they might instantly move their body trying to avoid pain and you might hit the wrong body part.
When you’re shopping for BDSM gear, make sure to include some ankle cuffs and handcuffs, some tope or even some bed sheets with built-in restrains.
The impact play fantasy is all about domination, and you can enhance it by getting in the role.
If you want to be a proper master or a merciless dominatrix, don’t be ashamed to dirty talk during the BDSM session.
Verbal disgrace as part of the role play, won’t make your partner feel humiliated.
Well, maybe they will, but it’s all part of the game.
If they can’t resist being tortured anymore, they always have the safe word they can shout and make everything stop.
There’s one thing you shouldn’t forget when experimenting with impact play.
Pain is only pleasurable when combined with sexual pleasure.
Your partner’s pain threshold will be much higher if you begin the impact play after the foreplay.
Never start your session with whipping.
Turn on your partner.
Ger her wet or get him hard and only after that unleash your sadism onto them.
And also, while you punish them, don’t forget to also reward them.
You can have penetrative sex, but it’s kind of disruptive of the torture play.
That’s why, in most cases, the master pleases their slave with a dildo or a vibrator.
In the case of femdom punishment, things are simple.
Men are easily pleased by some handjob, which can be performed comfortably between hits.
But whatever form your whip play with taking in the bedroom, don’t forget a couple of things.
Always care for your partner, even when you humiliate them.
Always make sure you’re getting into things you’re comfortable with.
The risk of accidents is high when messing with whips and toys like this.
Make sure you know the safe word and chose one that’s distinguishable even when shouting through a ball gag.
Also, if you experiment with bondage, make sure you have a pair of rounded tipped scissors close by for emergency releases.
This is just the basic guide on impact play.
You have so much more to learn.
And the more you learn, the more enjoyable this fantasy will be, for both the dominator and the slave partner.
Now go out there and enjoy your kink responsibly!
