If you think fantasizing about other people when you are with your partner is wrong, you are not the only person thinking so.
But fantasizing is a very normal thing and you should fantasize to achieve your full satisfaction.
Fantasy is the only area where you can set your imagination totally free and do those things you can only imagine to do!
Obviously, it is not something you do in reality so fantasy is a part of every normal human being’s psyche.
The need for companionship is also the object of fantasy.
So throw that guilt out the window and fantasize as much as you want, with whosoever is your dream partner! Batman? Wonder Woman??
Fantasize About Other people
Like already mentioned, fantasizing is absolutely normal and is the best thing to do when you really can’t go about seducing every person you lay your desire on!
If you think that it is weird to do so and you need to see a sex therapist to set your mind right, you are entirely and blatantly wrong!
You don’t need to be Freud to deduce that it only adds zing to your personal sex life and it is one sure way of attaining sexual freedom, even though it is in fantasy land.
You can never do those things with those people you desire to do with in real life.
So set your imagination free and unleash your wildest fantasies when you are in bed with your partner- be it your date or your long-time spouse.
If you are indeed human, you have surely imagined your boyfriend or girlfriend to be someone more beautiful, more ‘full’ and, well, the sex god or goddess of your dreams!
Fantasizing isn’t bad at all- on the contrary, it could be a healthy thing to do.
All normal, healthy humans fantasize frequently, especially after the initial excitement of sleeping with your own partner wears off a bit.
Or when you discover that you are not enjoying it as much as you thought you would be.
Perhaps the sexual stimulation you were used to when you dreamed about the person, was a bit too much and was not real?
Precisely the reason to go ahead and fantasize all you want!
Scandalous, you think? Not at all!
Having somebody close to your heart can be companionship and romance but in sexual relationships, we sometimes need to keep a distance.
It implies that you can fantasize about your close friend, an acquaintance, or maybe a random person you spotted on the street while you are still getting on with your longtime friend or partner.
It could also be a total stranger or someone you created in your mind.
You can dream about this person and it actually helps in keeping things a lot more exciting than normal.
It peps up your sex life and that of your partner’s without affecting the relationship in any way.
Mere flights of fancy and sexual freedom
The ‘Medical Daily’ had recently reported their findings in an extensive survey.
It was found that as many as 46 percent among women and 42 percent among men have fantasized during sex.
They imagined someone else with them in bed while actually having sex with their spouse or regular partner!
The same survey reported that 15 percent of women surveyed had these fantasies whenever they had sex with their spouse or partner.
It gave them total satisfaction and even left their partners with a smile on their faces!
Another in-depth survey in the US and Europe that covered around 1500 women and men has given interesting findings too.
This survey too reported that fantasizing about somebody other than your partner was indeed very common and it helped improve your relationship.
It led to a better sexual stimulation which drove the partner as well.
The fantasies ranged from the common crush on a celebrity to outrageous ones like gang-bang sex in public.
Fantasizing makes sex better
However, fantasizing or imagining having sex with somebody else did not suggest that the person was thinking about infidelity.
It is one of the most common phenomena to have erotic fantasies and it is absolutely normal.
The people who took the survey said that the relationship with their spouse or partner was extremely satisfying.
Over 80 percent stated that their sex life was actually better off with the erotic daydreaming during sex.
Some of them admitted that the disappointment in the sexual relationship changed for the better with fantasizing.
Although some may consider this as taboo, most normal couples take it for granted that their partner is fantasizing too.
About 70 percent of those surveyed believed that their partners fantasized too.
67 percent of men and 74 percent of women acknowledged that their partner too would be fantasizing people other than themselves.
However sex therapists believe that fantasizing, although healthy, could become an issue if the fantasies were about the same person over and over again.
It would perhaps disillusion you about tour partner and this could obviously lead to the relationship turning sore.
Fantasizing about other people does not always involve sexual escapades.
It could be just holding hands, kissing or cuddling.
Holding hands and kissing could imply a more profound meaning like love or even aid in sexual arousal.
It is women who are more likely to fantasize about kissing and cuddling than men.
Men normally fantasize more about the act itself.
They also fantasize about masturbation, dominance and submission, and spanking.
Having sex is, as we all know, topmost on a man’s mind!
Dreaming about an ‘ex’ is also common both in women and men.
Again, it does not necessarily imply that you want your ex back in your life.
The fantasy of being with your ex, according to an expert, could simply mean that you are still handling the breakup or maybe you are worried that things could go wrong in your present relationship.
In such situations, communicating with your partner can overcome any hassle that could otherwise get out of hand.
Share your fantasies
Like other sexual fantasies, dreaming about an ex doesn’t have to be a negative experience and may not signal you want that person back in your life.
According to one expert, imagining yourself with an ex could simply be a sign that you’re still processing the breakup or that you’re worried similar things could be going wrong in your current relationship.
In either case, communication could be the key to overcoming these hypothetically alarming illusions.
Couples that share their sex fantasies between themselves could actually be more sated in their sex life.
This helps in understanding your partner better.
A good reason to be more communicative.
Communication helps build a better sexual relationship just like in a normal relationship.
When you share things like what really gets you excite, your partner could work towards that and vice versa.
Naturally, you end up being sexually satisfied.
Care should be taken to ensure that you or your partner should not develop the feeling of sexual frustration.
It is also a fact that getting active with a total stranger is one of the top fantasies among couples.
In fact, this is more common in women than in men.
Having sex with somebody you don’t know, being submissive or in bondage really turns women on and their libido can be on fire.
That is the power of fantasizing!
It lets you or your partner have unrestricted thoughts going on in the mind while in the act of performing sexual intercourse, making it all the more satisfying.
Now that we have got a fair idea of why we fantasize about other people, you should be less worried about fantasizing about enjoying sex with others while you are with your own partner.
If you have a guilty feeling creeping at the back of your mind, throw it out the window.
Fantasizing about others is as normal as breathing in the fresh air.
So indulge as much as you would as long as you don’t hurt your partner or spouse.
Better still, share your fantasies and enjoy great sex together!
Like getting jerked off with women’s feet
Guys have this habit of fantasizing about a variety of ways of having sex with somebody.
Most guys like getting jerked off with women’s feet.
It gives them an unexplainable high in the head when girls play on their organs with their feet!
A guy’s sex life would be incomplete if he did not have this fantasy to add on his CV!
Guys love watching the soft, petite feet nimbly going up and down while enjoying a great foot job.
The best part is the girl likes pleasing her man too and watch him splash all over her feet.
Thus it is a win-win for both and the guy looks forward lustily for the next time!
Like to look at girl’s feet
Then there are guys that just like to look at a girl’s feet.
It invariably turns the guy on and the very thought of those little feet sliding up and down over him can give him a really hard time.
The guys also like to play with a girl’s feet and make them feel nice too.
It’s a cherished fantasy to take a girl’s feet in one’s hands and knead them ever so softly.
Maybe he would apply some gel or cream while at it.
He primes it up nice and soft and if the girl is aroused enough that’s a bonus.
He can get on with the rest of the job.
Pleasure goes both ways and that’s the spirit of the game!
Others fantasies
Well, that’s not all!
There are hundreds of other fantasies people are into.
There is really no dearth to imagination, is there?
The stranger is the fact that women fantasize more than men do and the variety is stunning.
It’s probably due to the fact that women reach orgasm later than men and fantasizing helps them achieve orgasm quicker- and wilder!
Other fantasies include but are not limited to:
- Sex with teacher/student
- Cuckolding- having sex with another man in front of your spouse
- Wild sex using gadgets and whips etc.
- Sex in public- In parks, street corners, and public transport systems
- Orgies- sex with multiple partners
- Masturbating in front of an audience
- Sex with aliens
The list is never-ending and we can go on and on. Think up some daring ones yourself and fantasize when you are with your partner.
If you don’t already do it, try fantasizing the next time you have sex and feel the difference!
Come back here and share your wonderful moments with the rest of the world- they are waiting!!
