Speed dating is not for people who are playing around.
It’s for a more mature audience who knows exactly what they want in their romantic life.
Not everybody has the time, nerves and energy to go hit on girls in bars and pubs.
At the same time, girls who have things to do and a busy life don’t waste time in night clubs waiting to be hit on, hoping that they’ll find true love.
If you are in your 30s and you want to go speed dating, chances are you will come across many girls your age.
But the girls who are going on this kind of singles events are different.
That’s why you need to know a thing or two before you jump in the game.
This is how you hit on a girl in a speed dating
When you want to meet women through speed dating, you will have two main categories of girls to choose from.
It’s either girls in their 30s who are looking for a long term romantic relationships, or cougars who are looking just to hook up for fun.
I’m not excluding the possibility of a cougar looking for a serious romantic endeavor, but it’s usually the younger gals who are in for love.
And if you are on those quick first dates to find a soul mate, here’s how you hit on a girl in a speed dating scene, in which you match singles at the first glance.
First, you must know that speed dating is not really for shy people.
It is for flirts, and people who like chatting and dating games.
Although some single men and women attending these kinds of singles events are introverts and they don’t share too much information at first, they aren’t too shy or nervous.
Those girls limit themselves to online dating sites like OkCupid or dating apps like Tinder and Find Love.
Here we’re talking about girls who want to meet single men face to face, form a first impression, and want to indulge in courtships or start dating.
So you must be ready for some intense interaction with a girl who is looking for a perfect match.
She will want to find out everything about you, and she will start judging you at first sight.
That’s not a bad thing in events such as gatherings arranged by matchmakers.
And that is critical when it comes to hitting on a girl in her 30s.
Because girls that age, especially those who are looking for a serious relationship, don’t have time to play.
They have jobs and careers to take care of.
Maybe some of them have the responsibilities of the single parent life and being single is all they know.
They take all decisions about you in the first minutes of the first date.
Their intent might be to get married or just go on a date or even looking for a relationship.
So, let’s see how you’re going to resist those minutes.
A good first impression always starts with a good personal image.
Your outfit and your personal hygiene must be on point, along with your dating etiquette.
Girls in their 30s are into more mature men, so put on a buttoned-up shirt and some dress shoes that are matching your belt.
Comb your hair nicely, have a well-trimmed beard or a clean shave, fix your nails and don’t forget about the fresh mints.
Even though it might be tempting to wear sunglasses to feel more comfortable behind the visors, take them off when you talk to single women or anyone for that matter.
You need to get rid of the glasses when you meet someone, because eye contact is crucial in the art of flirting.
Talk clearly and concise, while looking the girl in the eyes.
Your tone of voice matters too.
Talk from the throat, not from your nose.
It’s even useful to do some vocal warm-up exercises, the kind that will allow your lips and tongue to move freely.
Rolling a couple of “Rs”, popping your lips a couple of times and taking your voice from as high as you could to the lowest it goes will get your voice box and speech apparatus ready for talking pleasantly and with no mistakes in pronunciation.
You can do these exercises in the car on the way there.
When you chat with singles that age, it’s important not to go off rails with the topics.
Don’t give dating and relationship advice when meeting singles.
What girls in their 30s want to know about you is what you do for a living, what your hobbies are, if you have any vices, and what your living conditions are.
But she will never ask you any of those questions directly.
What you need to do is let her know all these details in a creative non-direct way if you want to meet her after the event.
If you fit the profile of a serious guy who doesn’t play around, she will see a perfect match in you.
Another big chapter in the matchmaking process of the American singles in their 30s is race.
But speed dating is a non-exclusive event, where interracial couples are hitching all the time.
And as mentioned before, it’s also an event where single parents are attending.
Maybe you’re a single parent too.
What you need to know is that girls who are over 30 years old are ok with dating a guy who has kids from a previous marriage.
It’s completely normal for single people in their 30s to be parents, so you must be prepared for that.
If you’re not ready to play the step-dad, make sure you let the girl you’re talking to know that you’re not comfortable with dating a single parent.
Single people in their 30s are not that complicated.
Finding a good match is quite easy, because everyone is cutting straight to the chase, especially in a speed dating environment.
