Which fantasies exist?
Experts in sexual matters say that men's sexual fantasies vary from domination to submission and from exhibitionism to voyeurism.
At the same time, women’s sexual fantasies range from oral sex to pegging and bondage to sex with a stranger.
Sexual fantasies amount to redrawing the boundaries of reality and imagining situations that happen rather infrequently or not at all.
It amounts to exploring the heights and depths of one’s desires.
While experts have their own opinions about sexual fantasies, it is needless to say that they all agree that fantasies are common and it is absolutely normal for one or both partners or spouses to fantasize during sexual intercourse or whenever.
The Fantasies in Sex
Sexual fantasies are aplenty. Let us explore some of them, both men’s and women’s, alternately.
Having His Partner Take Charge
One of the most naive sexual fantasies among men is to have his spouse or partner take charge and do things and her way.
Many men feel thrilled at the sheer thought of a woman taking charge for the night, knowing what she wants and gets it no matter what.
She could even be a total dominatrix.
This is mainly because he has always been the one to pursue women and a role reversal can do a world of good.
Being Dominated By a Man
A study reported that 65% of women have this urge to be dominated.
Fantasy scenarios are, again, plenty.
She could choose something subtle such as the man holding her down by her wrists and as he kisses, fondles and mounts her, to more adventurous things involving a lot of humiliation and pain as in BDSM.
Since is wild imagination, she can go any length!
Oral Sex, Especially if he is not getting it
Men's sexual fantasies are generally about things that their partners normally don’t or will not do.
For example, if his girlfriend does not or will not ‘go down’ on him such as giving a blow job, his fantasy would harp on that to a large extent.
Oral Sex is what she wants too!
In the case of women, both receiving and giving oral sex is a common fantasy.
It is a kinky and vigorous activity that is so much different from the usual pleasure like the penis in vagina intercourse.
She can view the act of a blow job, either way, depending on her bent of mind- either a dominant act of forcibly taking what is rightfully hers or a meek act of submissiveness.
Similarly receiving an oral can be viewed as an act of pampering or otherwise.
Whatever the classification, it is certain that the oral act is a hugely popular one, thoroughly enjoyed by the participants.
The More the Merrier?
Two is better than one, no? That’s what most men believe and fantasize about- having sex with two women at the same time.
Imagining a threesome is on the top of every man’s list of sexual fantasies.
However, man hasn’t yet completely figured out how to get his partner completely involved in a threesome!
Threesome is awesome!
Women too are up for a threesome fantasy and this is something they can get, unlike the men!
She feels comfortable doing an oral on one guy while the other is inside her, pounding away. And she likes the fact that she can have both men ejaculate in unison.
Women are known to have it their way and they know how to get things done!
He wants to go Anal
Another sexual fantasy men are fond of is going anal.
This is perhaps one form of sex he normally does not get from his partner or girlfriend. Most wives refuse this too for whatever varied reasons.
So, another eternal question (the other being about a threesome) on a man’s mind is how to get her up for anal sex.
She likes Anal too
The popular perception is that women do not like anal sex and it is not good for them.
However, it is not right. Nor is the notion that men coax women into anal sex to feed their fantasy, correct.
Dr. Alicia Sinclair, an expert on the subject says, "The idea that women don’t enjoy anal sex also disempowers them and takes away their sexual agency as beings with their own sexual desires and complex sexuality."
Watching Sex
Men are fond of watching sex performed by women on women!
Voyeurism is one of the top fantasies on the men’s list of sexual fantasies.
This can be clubbed with similar fantasies such as watching your partner with another man and masturbating to it
Voyeurism
Women, too, are not behind when it comes to voyeurism.
Watching other people in the act is a huge turn-on for them.
Women’s erotic fantasies can be really out of this world and they imagine sex in the wildest of places.
The possibilities are unlimited and they enjoy it to the core.
Submission: Being teased, and spanked
Men tend to enjoy sexual fantasies more than women do.
A man loves to play a passive role and being submissive to the woman.
This is because it is quite contrary to real-life situations where they tend to dominate rather than being submissive.
Men enjoy being tied up and teased or spanked.
It is total surrender while being tantalized to the core!
Exhibitionism
Having sex in a public place and not getting caught, but perhaps being secretly watched, is indeed another male fantasy on a rather long list.
In real life, this would be an absolute risk and he knows it.
So it gives him an additional high of not being discovered while performing the act.
Even walking around naked on a terrace or inside a room with the windows and curtains open gives some people a natural high.
Showing off
Showing off or exhibitionism can be extremely sexy for women.
More so if the onlooker is as excited as she is while banging away to climax!
Imagining the beholder masturbating away in gay abandon thrills her to the core.
She also fantasizes about strip-teasing a partner or performing for an audience akin to a porn movie.
Domination
The fantasy of domination, where he has total control and power over his girl in any given sexual situation, excites a man like no other.
Domination fantasies include the likes of bondage, receiving a blow job, spanking, making dirty talk, and many other such acts.
Generally, these are all only in the mind and that is a very good place to be.
Bondage
Bondage is far more dangerous than kinky and many women indulge in this fantasy.
From common stuff like necklaces to more intense stuff like rope, chains, and handcuffs, they like to use it all.
The very thought of being controlled by another makes most women wet.
Being rendered helpless and unable to stop his advances for pleasure or even a bit of pain gives the women a unique high!
Role-Playing: Dressing Up
Men also fantasize a lot about playing out roles from stories or super-hero comic books.
They dress up as their favorite superhero or play the role of a student or teacher while having sex.
Doctor-nurse, doctor-patient, and patient-nurse are a few favorites.
Role play
Role play is equally popular with women.
Women too like to play roles in the medical and teaching profession and draw a lot of satisfaction from it.
Wonder Woman and Batgirl are favorite characters girls like to play while fantasizing.
Like to have sex in front of another person
Normally the very thought of adultery or sleeping with someone else infuriates couples and also makes them green with envy.
However, some men like to have sex in front of another person.
like to watch their partner having sex with another woman
Even stranger is the fact that some people like to see their partner have sex with another woman, right in front of them!
Well, this is a great fantasy to have but not something that happens much in day to day life.
Then again this fantasy of wanting to engage in sexual intercourse in front of another person is only an exhibitionist fad and is part of most peoples’ fantasy.
Gangbangs
Gangbangs are sexual situations wherein more than a few people engage in sexual activity.
The main person could have sex with others either successively or even at the same time.
Gangbangs could be many women and a single man or vice versa- many men and one woman.
Different sexual acts are performed at the same time during a gangbang.
This could be in the form of double penetration or even triple penetration- like in oral, vaginal and anal sex, simultaneously.
The usual gangbangs happen with multiple men and a single woman as participants.
Being tied up
Some people, mainly girls, like being tied up while having sex.
This comes under the ‘bondage’ category and is a popular fantasy as well as real-life practice, more so in the western countries.
While rope bondage or being tied up during sex is a fun thing to do- adding spice to your sexual experience, you need to know how to practice this safely.
A recent study showed that 36 percent of the adult population used some form of bondage in their sexual activities and rope bondage was the more popular one.
Rope bondage or being tied up helps in enhancing a couple’s sexual experience, especially that of the woman.
It is a good practice to start with if one has the idea of getting more adventurous with bondage!
Being whipped
Being whipped during sexual intercourse is another of the sexual fantasies that are hugely popular in the west.
This entails one to whip his or her partner inflicting pain during the pleasurable act of lovemaking.
Many people get turned on by this act.
This act is more enjoyed by women and they like getting whipped by their spouses or partners aiding them to heighten their sexual experiences.
The human skin, being as sensitive as it is, takes the impact of whipping and translates it into a feeling of supreme sexual satisfaction.
Well not only in fantasizing but in real life too!