Throughout history, orgies have been common in many civilizations.
From Egypt and Ancient Rome to India, people have got together to be naughty in groups.
It’s something about being in a room full of people doing this fantasy and breaking all barriers of intimacy that makes some of us lust for such an experience.
If you’ve never experienced an orgy before, but the thought of an orgy is arousing for you, then you might probably want to read a few things about this kink in our next article.
The Fantasy: Gangbangs and having sex with many people
Trying to explain the psychology of this fantasy is not easy.
There are many roots that can light up this desire in people.
But common traits that appear in people who partake orgies are exhibitionism, voyeurism and candulism.
Being in an orgy requires mental strength or willingness not only to expose yourself to strangers but also to have sexual contact with them.
The mental impact these actions can have over an individual are significant, and in a way, that’s why those who have this fantasy are liking it so much.
However, there are so many types of orgies, and we will discuss each of them in particular in the following paragraphs.
Let’s start with gang bangs.
In most cases, the gang bang is an orgy in which one woman is shared by multiple men.
You might not know it, but many women have this fantasy.
Ladies like attention from the opposite sex just as much as men do.
Being the only woman in a room full of men who got it hard just for you can be a thrilling experience.
At the same time, the sexual satisfaction that you get from multiple partners who take turns on you can be overwhelming.
I actually discussed this feeling with a friend of mine who was shared by three men in a hotel room.
She confessed to me that the guys weren’t doing anything out of the ordinary and they weren’t packing monster dongs either.
But the idea of men taking turns on her was so arousing that she had orgasm after orgasm.
Sometimes, gang gangs are an opportunity for couples to explore their sexuality.
For some men, watching their woman shared by other men is pretty exciting.
It is a form of cuckolding taken to a whole new level.
Since we’re talking about couples, I think it’s a good time to mention that most orgies are basically just swinger sex parties.
It’s usually married couples or those who are in a long-term relationship that are attending these parties.
The swinger club solution is one of the most efficient ways of spicing things up and enjoying sex with multiple partners without getting things complicated.
Although you can experiment with group sex at home, by inviting friends in the bedroom, having orgies with familiar people can alter the relationships both with the friends and within the couple.
The swinger parties are most popular orgy formats.
So, let’s talk a bit more about how they work.
I’m sure you’ve heard of swinger clubs before, but if you’ve never been to one and you’re planning to go, here’s what to expect.
First of all, everything starts as a regular party, with the difference that most people are naked or wearing sexy lingerie.
There are drinks, finger food, nice music and a relaxed atmosphere.
This is necessary to create a chemistry between partakers, for people to loosen up, and in a way, it’s a foreplay for what’s about to happen.
At swinger parties, you will notice that some people are wearing Venetian masks.
That’s because although everyone is willing to share their bodies with strangers, they might not want their identity revealed.
Now let’s talk about sex.
Although people are excited and they live their fantasy, don’t expect everything in a gang bang or orgy to look like it does in porn.
The porn orgies look so well synchronized because there’s a director behind the camera who puts everyone in their position.
During a real orgy, there will be many moments of awkwardness in which people are trying to find their place.
Some might even be left out for a while.
It’s usually men who are left out.
If that happens, don’t take it too personally, it won’t last too long.
A way of improving the dynamics of an orgy is communication.
I’m not saying you should shout instructions like a coach during a football game.
Eye contact and body language plus verbalizing some of your intentions will make things much easier.
One thing that might shock you during an orgy will be the smells.
People are sweating, men are cumming, women are squirting, there will be lots of smells combined in that room.
One thing that can help with the smells are flavored lubes.
And lubrication is the next thing you should know about an orgy.
You will need a lot of lube.
The orgy sex takes way longer than regular sex, and no matter how aroused a woman gets, it will still not be enough.
Now for some safety tips.
I don’t think I have to mention this, but I will do it anyway.
When having sex with strangers, always use protection.
Have many condoms with you and change them between partners.
Pacing yourself with the dinks is also important.
Although alcohol is a perfect social lubricant on such occasions, and by the end of the night everyone gets pretty tipsy, you don’t want to be the drunk guy at an orgy.
And if you notice people are getting too drunk and belligerent, say something.
That’s why it’s always a good idea to attend orgies at the swingers club.
Believe it or not, there are bouncers who can take care of the troublemakers.
Although the intervention of a bouncer in an orgy can be a turn-off, it’s better than having the whole party shut down because someone couldn’t hold their liquor.
Finally, let’s talk about the most important thing when it comes to having sex with multiple partners at once: consent.
So many people who have never experienced an orgy before are wondering how consent works on such occasions.
First of all, the willingness to have sex with strangers, and getting naked with them is in a way offering your consent for sexual interaction.
But at the same time, during the orgy, you will notice an interesting group dynamic.
Before switching partners or performing a sexual act on someone, there’s some sort of invitation to sex between people, usually extended by the man to the woman.
It resembles an invitation to dance.
And just like when someone asks you to dance, you can refuse.
There is such thing as saying no during an orgy and people understand it right away.
It’s curious how respectful and understanding men are when they are surrounded by other naked men.
This is the basic knowledge about orgies in real life.
Just remember that the fantasy is not always as it’s portrayed in porn.
If you decide to partake in a sex party and if you do it with your partner, make sure you’re emotionally prepared for it.
You must break some walls and trust in each other before you take this step.
But as long as you’re consenting adults with open minds enjoying their sexuality to the fullest, everything will be fine.
