Our sexuality is way more complex and naughtier than what we’re willing to discuss in public.
Even though people don’t talk so much about it, having sex with people outside our relationships is rather normal.
It is considered taboo, but that’s just because we fear others won’t understand.
And I’m not talking about adultery.
I’m not trying to promote cheating on your partner.
I’m trying to normalize having sex with other people while in a serious relationship.
Although it’s a fantasy we all share, we are too afraid of sharing it with others.
We don’t even confess to our partners.
Let’s see why ladies fantasize about watching their man with another woman.
The Fantasy: Watching their partners having sex with another woman
Although it’s present in both genders, this fantasy is mostly carried out by women.
Men are usually too fragile when it comes to their sexual performances to get over the thought that a man could satisfy their girlfriend or wife better that they can.
Women are more open to give course to this fantasy, and it might also be because of the more pronounced bisexuality of the female gender.
In a threesome, men usually see things as sharing their woman with another man, while ladies see it as an adventure with two sexual partners.
This makes things easier from a psychological point of view.
But this time we’re not talking about threesomes.
We’re talking about the pleasure a woman feels when she watches her partner have sex with another woman.
And this pleasure has its roots in what is called candulism.
If you’ve never heard of this kink before, it’s the pleasure you have from sharing your partner.
It gives you some kind of pride that your partner is attractive enough to please other people.
In a loose way, it’s a form of bragging.
And as we know, the girls always like to brag with the man in their lives, when the man gives them reasons to.
This is also a form of voyeurism.
That’s why couples who indulge in it are usually also open to other exhibitionism activities, such as nudism.
Even though it might sound simple, this fantasy can take so many shapes and forms.
Depending on the intents of the woman, she can be close or far, she can partake, or she can even be in control of the whole situation.
For someone with a strong voyeurism passion, these fantasies can be enjoyed from a distance.
Some couples enjoy the hidden cam version of this fantasy.
I’ve met a couple who was in an open relationship.
The husband was allowed to bring girls home when she was out of town.
And when she would come back, they would watch the secret sex tapes together.
She enjoyed the idea of watching her man with another woman, but she wasn’t confident enough to be in the same room while it was happening.
So, they found a middle ground that seemed to work for both of them.
Don’t ask me how legal the spycam part is in the whole adventure.
But as long as they didn’t share the videos with anyone, I guess no one could accuse them of anything.
However, not all women are shy.
Some want to be there when their partner is banging another chick.
Some like to watch from a corner passively.
They enjoy the brutal feeling of watching the man they love enjoying the body of another woman.
It’s still a form of S&M, but instead of body pain, they enjoy the pleasure from emotional distress.
It’s the same principle that fuels the male desire of being cucked.
On the other hand, not all ladies feel emotional distress from watching their partner have sex with another woman.
Most of the ones who indulge in this fantasy are doing it because they are aroused.
Even when they don’t take part in the actual act, they still get pleasure out of it.
Masturbating while watching their man with another woman is a common practice, and the orgasms can be way more intense than they would if they would share the physical experience in a threesome.
This taboo has so many other more straightforward reasons for which it takes place behind closed doors.
In so many cases, I’ve heard about women who weren’t necessarily into candulism, but they just loved their boyfriends or husbands so much, that they wanted to offer them such an experience.
Maybe they know that the man has a thing for blondes or redheads, or perhaps he has an Asian or an Ebony fantasy, and by helping him fulfil it, they show their love and appreciation.
How many times have you heard about the birthday threesomes?
Well, that’s precisely the reason for which they happen on the man’s birthday.
It’s not necessarily the fact that she wants to watch her partner with another woman.
She just wants to make him happy, whatever it takes.
Another reason for which ladies would give into watching her partner with another woman is one that I mentioned before: bragging with the qualities of the man in their life.
It’s common for women, especially after a certain age, to share their partner with their best friends.
That’s because best friends share everything.
They talk about every aspect of their lives, even the most intimate sexual details.
This settles the mental ground for a threesome that’s about to happen.
The friend starts to fantasize about the friend’s husband and the wife subconsciously wants to prove that her man is exactly how she brags he is.
I know that all these scenarios and explanations for the fantasy might sound like coming straight out of porn.
But here’s where you’re making a confusion.
Human sexuality isn’t inspired by porn.
It’s the other way around.
Your average housewife is way kinkier than you’d think she is.
The fact that not everyone is willing to talk about the naughty fantasies they dream about or which they fulfil behind closed doors doesn’t mean they aren’t happening.
If you want to convince yourself that all couples are just as naughty as you are, just pay a visit to the local swingers club.
You’ll meet couples of all ages and backgrounds who have a healthy and free sexual life.
I’m going to leave you with the secret that makes the difference between these fantasies being just dreams and them becoming a reality.
The secret is a happy relationship that’s based on care, trust and most importantly, communication.
A couple who fights all the time will never live their sexual fantasies to the fullest.
But a couple who works out all their problems will know how to communicate their deepest desires and will have a strong enough bond that won’t be broken by an adventure such as inviting other women in the bedroom.
